PASANGAN yang baru saja menikah tentu saja mempunyai hasrat yang begitu besar ingin bercinta setiap hari dengan pasangannya. Kini Anda pun tetap bisa bercinta dengan pasangan Anda, meski Anda berdua sedang menjalani ibadah puasa.

Salah satu cara yang bisa Anda lakukan yakni mengganti waktu bercinta pada pagi hari menjadi malam hari. Selain itu, Anda disarankan berani menciptakan variasi bercinta yang bisa membuat pasangan Anda makin cinta dengan Anda.

Menurut Askmen, ada beberapa cara unik yang bisa dilakukan pasangan muda untuk mendapatkan kepuasan seks selama bulan Ramadan, seperti:

Melakukan variasi foreplay

Sebelum melakukan hubungan intim bersama pasangan, Anda tetap harus melakukan pemanasan atau foreplay. Tujuan foreplay tak lain agar pasangan Anda lebih menikmati hubungan seks dengan rasa nyaman.

Nah, kini Anda pun bisa melakukan variasi foreplay yang bisa membantu Anda dan pasangan mendapatkan sebuah kenikmatan seks yang tidak terlupakan.

Lakukan hubungan seks di tempat baru

Jika selama ini Anda hanya melakukan hubungan intim di kamar tidur ataupun kamar mandi, kini tidak ada salahnya Anda melakukan terobosan baru dengan bercinta di ruang tamu. Anda berdua tentu saja harus berhati-hati dan memastikan bahwa tidak ada satu pun orang berada di sana.

Lakukanlah rangsangan yang memikat

Awalilah hubungan bercinta dengan memberikan rangsangan seks, berupa belaian ataupun pelukan mesra. Agar memberi kesan romantis, Anda pun tak perlu ragu melempar kata-kata penuh cinta kepada pasangan Anda. Buatlah dia terpanah asmara dengan permainan yang baru saja Anda mulai.

Semuanya ini tentu saja dapat Anda lakukan bersama pasangan ketika waktu puasa telah usai dan Anda pun bisa memilih waktu pada malam hari untuk menghabiskan malam bersama pasangan.

SOURCE : OKEZONE.COM

Coba tebak, jenis akun e-mail apa yang paling banyak dipakai oleh para netter? Ya, jawabnya adalah webmail. Tak heran, karena akun ini gratis, mudah digunakan, dan kapasitasnya cukup tambun.
 

Sayangnya, di luar segala kelebihannya, webmail harus digunakan ketika PC sedang online, termasuk ketika Anda cuma ingin membaca pesan lama. Sangat jarang ada layanan sejenis yang memberikan fitur POP3/SMTP sehingga Anda bisa mengaksesnya dari e-mail client seperti Mozilla Thunderbird, Apple Mail, Microsoft Outlook, atau Eudora.

Untunglah, Yahoo! berinisiatif melakukan terobosan dengan merilis Yahoo! Zimbra Dekstop. Aplikasi ini menawarkan cara praktis untuk mengakses akun webmail Anda. Dengannya, aneka pesan elektronik yang Anda simpan di alamat webmail populer seperti Gmail atau Yahoo! Mail bisa ditarik ke dalam ruang simpan di PC.

Aplikasi berstatus beta hasil akuisisi Yahoo! terhadap perusahaan pembuat aplikasi Zimbra ini tersedia secara gratis. Tidak hanya itu, Zimbra juga bisa berjalan di tiga platform sekaligus: Mac OS X (Tiger 10.4.11 atau Leopard 10.5.4 ke atas), Windows (Vista atau XP SP2 ke atas), dan Linux (x86 2.6.x ke atas). Selain mudah digunakan, Zimbra menyediakan banyak fitur. Anda tidak hanya bisa ber-e-mail-ria, tetapi dapat pula memanfaatkan fasilitas daftar Contact, Calendar, sampai Document, yang bisa disinkronisasi dari akun webmail Anda. Aplikasi ini mampu terhubung ke Yahoo! Maps sehingga bisa menayangkan peta lokasi dari alamat si pengirim e-mail.

Three in One
Aplikasi berukuran mulai 42MB ini menyediakan dukungan terhadap fasilitas POP3/SMTP. Dengan demikian, Anda bisa menarik pesan yang ada di akun e-mail kantor Anda ke Zimbra.

Syarat menggunakannya tidaklah ribet. Yang pasti, Anda harus memiliki ruang harddisk 200MB untuk instalasi software, dan ruang hard disk yang cukup untuk menyimpan pesan. Sedangkan memori yang dibutuhkan untuk menjalankannya sekitar 256MB saja.
Bagi pengguna Yahoo! Mail dan AOL Mail, aplikasi ini bisa langsung sinkron, baik dengan yang berbayar mau pun gratisan. Sedangkan jika menggunakan GMail, Anda harus mengaktifkan dulu fitur IMAP melalui menu setting di akun e-mail tersebut. Atau Anda pengguna akun e-mail POP3? Anda bisa mengesetnya seperti setelan di Microsoft Outlook.

Yahoo! Zimbra sungguh menawarkan kepraktisan. Beda dengan aplikasi akun e-mail lainnya yang tidak menerima webmail, ia bisa mengelola webmail dengan leluasa — baik dalam status online mau pun offline.

TIP: Install, Atur, Pakai

Seperti halnya mailer atau e-mail client lainnya, aplikasi Yahoo! Zimbra terdiri dari tiga tahap: install, lakukan pengesetan akun, lalu pakai. Ya, memang semudah itu. Tertarik mencoba? Silakan ikuti panduan berikut.

1. Install aplikasi dengan mengklik-dobel installer file yang telah diunduh sebelumnya. Setelahnya, jalankan aplikasi dengan mengklik icon shortcut [Yahoo! Zimbra Desktop] yang ada di [Start] > [All Programs]. Pada jendela yang muncul, klik [Set Up an Account].

2. Pilih akun e-mail yang Anda gunakan pada jendela wizard berikutnya. Isikan deskripsi, alamat e-mail, dan password pada menu Account Setup. Untuk menarik e-mail baru, Anda bisa menentukan durasi waktu atau teknik penarikannya (otomatis atau manual) di menu [Get new mail]. Sesudahnya, klik [Save Settings].
3. Jika Anda ingin mengeset akun e-mail lainnya, klik tombol [Set Up Another Account] dan lakukan pengesetan seperti langkah sebelumnya. Jika tidak, langsung saja masuk ke aplikasi dengan mengklik [Go to Yahoo! Zimbra Desktop]. Jendela aplikasi akan segera muncul dengan tampilan serupa Outlook Express.

source : kompas.com

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Clixsense, tapi baru semalam saya tertarik untuk mengikutinya setelah melihat bukti cek yang dikirim oleh program tersebut. Sejak iklim dunia PTReM (Paid To Read eMail) dan PTC (Paid To Click) tidak sekondusif beberapa tahun lalu, saya memang sengaja menarik diri jauh-jauh. Padahal dulu program-program kategori tersebut banyak berjasa untuk menyangga kelangsungan hidup saya, termasuk untuk membiayai kuliah.

 Kembali ke ClixSense.

secara singkat, program ini akan membayar kita sebesar $0.01 hingga $5 untuk tiap situs atau iklan yang kita kunjungi. Iklan-iklan ini setiap harinya sudah secara otomatis tersedia di dalam akun kita. Jadi yang perlu kita lakukan, setelah mendaftar, adalah rutin berkunjung ke dalam akun kita dan kemudian mengklik link-link iklan yang ada.

Program ini menggunakan dua jenis keanggotaan, biasa dan premium . Untuk membership biasa, kita hanya akan mendapati 3-5 iklan setiap harinya. Namun jika kita melakukan upgrade ke member premium sebesar $10, maka setiap harinya kita akan disuguhi 180 hingga 200 lebih link iklan!

Mari kita coba hitung potensi penghasilannya.

Dengan asumsi kita sudah mendaftar sebagai anggota premium dan setiap harinya kita hanya diberi 180 link iklan berharga 1 sen, maka dalam sehari kita akan mendapat penghasilan sebesar 180 x $0.01 = $1.8. Dengan demikian, dalam sebulan kita akan memperoleh uang sebesar $1.8 x 30 = $54. Lumayan bukan?

Untuk masalah pembayaran, ClixSense menggunakan cek. Enaknya, batas minimal pembayaran dapat kita tentukan sendiri. Yang terkecil adalah $10. Tentu untuk nominal yang ini tidak disarankan karena apabila dipotong biaya pencairan cek di bank, bisa-bisa malah tekor, hehehe.

Namun sebelum Anda terbuai dengan hitung-hitungan di atas, perlu diingat bahwa masing-masing iklan wajib dibuka selama 30 detik sebelum iklan yang lain dapat dibuka. Apabila selama 1 jam penuh kita standby di depan ClixSense, maka jumlah total iklan yang terbuka adalah 120 ($1.2). Jadi lebih baik pertimbangkan dahulu masalah koneksi internet Anda sebelum mendaftar ke dalam ClixSense. Yang pasti, bagi yang beruntung memiliki akses internet tak terbatas dan lebih sering nganggur di depan komputer, program ini bisa memberikan tambahan uang saku untuk membeli sembako dalam jumlah yang lumayan.

gratis mau gabung, klik link : clixsense

1. MARKET RESEARCH ANALYST (Marketing Research & Dev.) ( Code : MRA)
   • Bachelor degree/ Last Semester in Industrial Engineering/ Statistic
   • with min GPA 2,75 Age max 27 years old
   • Having good analitical & conseptual thinking, good communication
   • skill & fluent in English both oral or written.
   • Having statistical / survey skill & good analysis in micro economics
2. PRODUCTION STAFF ( Code : PS )
   • Bachelor degree/ Last Semester
   • in Mechanical Engineering/ Industrial Engineering/ Metalurgy
   • With GPA 2.75 Age Max 27 years old
   • Having good communication skill, & adaptability
   • Having good leadership & teamwork
3. PRODUCT ENGINEER ( Code : PE )
   • Bachelor degree/ Last Semester in Mechanical Engineering
   • with min GPA 2,75 Age max 27 years old
   • Having good analitical thinking, teamwork & proactive
   • Have good computer literacy & knowledge in technical drawing
4. ENGINEERING STAFF ( Code : ES )
   • Bachelor degree/ Last Semester in Mechanical/Industrial Engineering
   • with min GPA 2,75
   • Age max 27 years old

   • Having good analitical thinking, teamwork & managerial skill

1. PRODUCT & QUALITY ENGINEERING STAFF ( Code : PQES )
   • Diploma Degree/ Last Semester in Mechanical Engineering
   • with min GPA 2.75 Age Max 25 years old
   • Having good knowledge in motorcycle components
   • Having good technical drawing skill
   • Hard worker & fast learner
2. PURCHASING STAFF (Cost Control 2) ( Code : PSCC2 )
   • Diploma Degree/ Last Semester in Mechanical Engineering
   • with min GPA 2.75 Age Max 25 years old
   • Having good technical drawing skill
   • Having good knowledge in manufacturing process and quality standart
   • Having good knowledge in motorcycle components
   • Hard worker & fast learner
3. ENGINEERING ( Code : Eng )

   • Diploma Degree/ Last Semester in Mechanical Engineering/ Industrial

1.  
   • Engineering
   • with min GPA 2.75 Age Max 25 years old
   • Having good technical drawing skill
   • Having good communication, & teamwork
2. PRODUCTION ( Code : PROD )
   • Diploma Degree/ Last Semester in Mechanical / Industrial Engineering
   • With min GPA 2.75 Age Max 25 years old
   • Having good leadership

   • Having strong motivation, hard worker & fast learner

Please fill identity form at :

Student Advisory Center (SAC) – ITS Surabaya

not later than August 22 nd 2008 and the announcement of eligible candidates for psychological test on August 27 th 2008 at :

Student Advisory Center (SAC) – ITS Surabaya

How to make many friends easily..

by: Ivan Campuzano

Setting the Stage

Your goal in meeting people should be to consciously be the first to initiate and set the stage for conversation. Most people are hesitant to be the first, don’t be like most people step out of your comfort zone. I know that if you are a shy person that this can be one of the hardest things for you to do, but the more you do it, the more you condition your self for it to become second nature. As a small kid I used to be really shy but I noticed that the kids that where outgoing tended to be the happier kids so I began to step out of my comfort zone and now I feel I can walk up to almost anyone. This is going to take time; things don’t happen over night but don’t let this discourage you. Many people feel that for you to become proficient in something takes around five years. Don’t waste anytime, start today and each day after that will get easier. Each different experience will later serve as a reference to remind you, that you can approach almost anyone. By being the first to initiate conversation you also automatically have a certain degree of control, you are able to draw people into your own rhythms. Have you ever noticed how persuasive people are able to seduce you to their ways, dictating your body language and basically synchronizing it to theirs? This is because people naturally imitate other people as a way of communicating with the other person. So if you are the first you get to decide what angle to approach. So if the person you are approaching appears sad, approach them with a big confident smile. Odds are they will slowly begin to smile; you will automatically change their mood. Now you will have a better chance of having a better conversation.

In setting the stage you will need to train your self to pick up any subtle signals that the person you are approaching is giving off. With time you will be able to sum up a person in a blink of an eye and from what your subconscious catches use it help you set the stage. This will require you to have an open mind and immerse your self in as many different worlds/cultures as possible. That’s why I never limit my self to one particular set of friends. I have friends from all sorts of backgrounds. I have friends who are skaters, basketball players, artists, musicians, writers, etc. By having so many friends with diverse interests I quickly learn about their worlds. By knowing what kind of stage to set up you will know how to get the other person to think very highly of you. For example by being observant you will catch the subtleties in the way a person appears to be (The way he is dressed, body language, tone of voice, language, etc.) which will help you to imagine placing your self in there shoes. By really imagining what being that person is like it will give you a good idea of how he/she is feeling. This in turn helps you get a better idea of what appproach to use when trying to communicate effectively with them. When I am able to pick up persons subtleties I will know what topics, questions, and general things that appeal to them which gives me information to work with in the process of winning that person as a friend. Like if know this person is really passionate about cars, I will ask a question with the minimum knowledge I have about something that he knows or thinks he knows a lot about.

Internet Marketing is a broad term that can include everything from pay-per-click management to a full-blown online marketing campaign that builds traffic and tracks site visitors to increase conversions from all mediums. Internet Marketing can be thought as encompassing all of the following disciplines: search engine optimization, pay-per-click management, link building and affiliate marketing.

Internet Marketing Companies work solely towards getting their client’s product or services marketed online, and this is really becoming something that modern businesses can’t live without. Obviously, an Internet marketing company can’t use the same techniques that a traditional advertising agency would use, such as television commercials and special promotions.

The things that an Internet marketing company can do are pretty amazing, though, because the costs are fairly low and the results can potentially reach a global audience. The interactive nature of Internet marketing, which allows businesses to draw out an instant response from potential customers, is a unique quality of the medium. Internet marketing companies can bring creative and technical aspects together, including design, development, advertising and sales. Internet marketing methods include search engine optimization, pay per click management, display advertising, email marketing, interactive advertising, blog marketing, and viral marketing.

The services that an Internet marketing Company offers aren’t always something tangible that people can see, although things like banner ads and social media marketing (using sites like MySpace) are quite visible. Things like search engine optimization and pay per click management are more intangible, but they help promote a website by placing it where people will see it when they are looking for that type of product or service. Internet marketing companies grow and promote an organization using online media.

An Internet marketing company does not simply build a website or promote a website… They make that website visible to people who are likely to become real paying customers. For some reasons, people are making easier ways of advertising their products and news through the Internet because of its lower cost and its effectiveness. Consumers can see the products and massive orders and requests could be in any instant on line with the company which provides the products.

An online marketing campaign is necessary these days with the Internet become bigger and bigger by the day. Therefore, it is crucial to hire an effective Internet marketing company to help your business achieve the online results you are looking for.

Since the advent of the World Wide Web, there have been many new evolutions to online marketing. Thankfully, there are many Internet marketing companies that can show you the ropes about the industry so that you can capitalize with your online venture.

There is a wide variety of items that a quality Internet marketing company can provide to your business. One of the main sources of online marketing is in search engine optimization, commonly referred to as SEO. This process simply refers to the act of ensuring that your website appears in the top of the major search engines such as Google, Yahoo and MSN. This is achieved by submitting articles and keyword phrases all over the Internet because the more links that your website has on the Net, the higher your search engine ranking will be. Since most customers will choose to use the services of a company that is among the top ten in the search engines, SEO can work wonders for your online venture.

However, an Internet marketing company also has many other services that can benefit your business. Many of these particular companies also provide website designing and graphic design help that will make your website much more appealing to the public. If you search hard enough, you will be able to find a quality company that will produce your website from the ground up and then use SEO to ensure that your site gets the recognition it deserves.

Online Marketing Degree generally refers to the degrees that are offered in the internet through advertisements and well-presented by different courses that are being offered by the colleges and universities throughout the globe. It most likely want to prepare individuals in undertaking and managing the process of developing consumer audiences and moving products from producers to consumers by the use of the internet.

A more easy way to determine whether you’re making the right decision in improving and pursuing your career as student is to continue studying and taking one of the major courses that the college or university offers. Online Marketing Degree includes instruction in buyer behavior and dynamics, principle of marketing research, demand analysis, cost-volume and profit relationships, pricing theory, marketing campaign and strategic planning, market segments, advertising methods, sales operations and management, consumer relations, retailing, and applications to specific products and markets.

Many colleges and universities have come up with the idea of advertising their different online courses because through this, a more practical, faster and easier way of advertising through the web can be seen and noticed. They will no longer have to make certain advertisements through television and radios just around their country but through online marketing service. The degrees that they offer will be seen by anyone from anywhere around the globe by the use of the internet. An effective way of advertising without the high costing.

A slight example on the online marketing degree is the Bachelor of Science in Business Administration – Marketing (B.S.B.A./MKT.) which puts working professionals on a clear path to lifelong learning and success. Maximizing their career opportunities, making important contributions to the profession, reaching the potential—that define success.

Through a program that combines academic theory with practical application, and includes courses in Ethical Leadership and in Social Responsibility, the students will gain knowledge and experience in areas vital to business and society. This concentration will help the students develop insights into an organization’s marketing effort by learning not only the traditional disciplines of alternate marketing channels, sales management, advertising and research, but also emerging marketing approaches related to consumer motivation, global customer management, customer relationship management, and marketing on the Internet.

Another example of an online marketing degree is the Master of Business Administration in Marketing (M.B.A./MKT.), it provides students with the ability to examine the relationship between marketing and corporate strategy and the tools necessary for developing and implementing strong marketing tactics throughout the companies in which they work. Through a hands-on curriculum including case analyses, this specialization lays the practical groundwork necessary for students interested in strengthening or furthering their career as a marketing professional or decision maker. 

Format

Online Marketing Service, also referred to as Internet marketing service is about using the Internet as another channel to market your business or organization. It’s about broadening your Web visibility, attracting qualified visitors to your website or getting interested people to email or call without even needing to come to your site. When visitors do come, through on-site marketing efforts and strong features, you lead them to do what you want them to do: fill out a form, register for an event or make a purchase from you through the internet usage. Some people would be eased to make their necessary work about their company by providing online worker from other place to make their job more easy to do.

Online Marketing Service builds, executes and measures direct response strategies using the Internet. Some key areas that the company should consider to concentrate on are acquisition of specific information, retention of the data being given on the site, awareness of how the site should be handled, optimization of the site content and behavior, and conversion of details through a more useful resource to the users online.

Here are some of the processes that the company should consider in getting their online marketing more effective:

1. Define Your Goal – work together with every member of your company to help clearly define exactly what it is you want to accomplish towards a more fruitful future using the online marketing service and how to set up goals which are important to the company.

2. Develop the Plan – the company should develop strategic, effective and measurable direct response marketing plans designed to achieve the company goals. Through the company’s efforts of each member, a more suitable and easy way of conducting the plan can be performed.

3. Execute the Plan – provide capable and experienced project management throughout the entire implementation process. Each member of the company should be reliable, thorough, well-connected, and determined to make satisfied clients that are connected to the company. With these at hand, satisfied clients are willing to cooperate and pay more for the efforts of the company.

4. Measure the Results – No online marketing campaign is complete without measuring the results. Internet marketing strategies take tracking and measuring of the clients website advertisements before implementation occurs. This way, the company can measure their effectiveness to the clients as well as how better they know their company’s effectiveness in the process. With the good results that the company is displaying, more and more clients are willing to be with the company and won’t have second thoughts of paying a good amount for a good service that the company offers. Clients’ satisfaction are very vital when it comes to consideration about the company’s main goal. 

Stress refers to our reaction from the conflict between our external environment and us, leading to emotional and physical pressure. The key is in learning to distinguish when the levels of stress are too high, and how to take steps to reduce the level of stress so that it remains optimal for you. Here are 3 tips to help your relieve stress for free!

Tip #1: Always set Goals

At the start of each day, week or month, it is crucial that you set yourself goals. These goals should be SMART, meaning that they have to be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time bound. Remember that your goals should always be realistic, and by pursuing the goals that you have set out you will be able to achieve more than you thought you were capable of in the time span you have set yourself. It is no point to set goals that are overly ambitious, as the end result may be undesirable, with you unable to meet your goals and hence feeling stressed out and experiencing a lower sense of self confidence.

Tip #2: Improve your Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence here is taken in the context of managing your emotions, especially in relation to stressful situations. This is usually measured by an indicator known as the Emotional Quotient, or EQ. Most often, your emotional reactions may be more extreme than called for, and this is due to your perception of threat to your emotional wellbeing. It is important that you do not adopt extremist views with regards to any situation, though it definitely does not mean that you should not have an opinion. Remember that there is no strict black or white, and that our opinions should always be flexible along the gradient of gray.

Tip #3: Time Management

With proper time management, you will find that 24 hours a day is more than sufficient for you to complete everything that you want or need to, including rest. Before you go to sleep each night, review what you have done for the day, and what you are planning to do the next day. Follow a set of priorities, or draw up a daily to do list, complete with a realistic amount of time allocated to each task. However, there is no need to be overly rigid to the timetable as certain tasks may require more time due to greater complexity than accounted for.
by: Greg Frost

Your mental train ticket to self-empowerment

We all find ourselves at certain points in our lives holding first class tickets to negative mental trains of thought. Michele Wahlder (MS, LPC, PCC), a two-time cancer survivor and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist, has placed thousands of people on the right track to self-empowerment via a plan she calls the 5 C Process. The journey challenges individuals to:

One

Clarify Current View – Where are you now- honestly?

Conscious awareness of your current view is the first step in becoming the best you can be. Getting clear about how your life aligns with your values, talents and unique gifts is vital to your happiness. You need to know where you are in order to learn where you want to go.

You can clarify your current view by completing a review of eight life areas. Be honest with yourself about how happy are you with your profession, finances, health and overall well-being, primary relationships, personal development, spirituality, environment, hobbies, etc.

Two

Connect with Your Highest Vision – Where do you want to be?

Example: A client of mine, a yoga instructor, decided she was happy teaching but wanted to contribute to the world on a larger level. She wasn’t happy with the quality of the yoga clothing that was accessible to her and her fellow yogis. Her vision was to design and create fun, hip and timeless yoga clothes using eco-conscious fabrics.

You have to get really clear about what you want. It is crucial that you connect to your highest vision of yourself because you can’t create it unless you are clear about what it looks like. If you don’t have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there. To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.” If you don’t have any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a Vision Board/Collage of what attracts you. You may also want to consider getting an outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients through a guided imagery that gives them a glimpse of what their future could look like. There are also books that can help guide you. Just get help assessing your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. We can’t help others as fully, if we are not aware of how we can best serve. So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, can we help the world and others.

Three

Create Inspiring Goals – How will you get there?

Example: My client created a tiered plan of what needed to happen step by step – outer goal. All of this was influenced by her inner goal of keeping a measured pace and a balanced life. Her goal was to enjoy the process.

You have to create a plan and take specific actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is more powerful to have inner and outer goals. An outer goal is what you want. For instance, you might think, “I want a new house”. An inner goal is more focused on the how. How will a new home benefit me and my family? Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that we can cook together, etc.? How can I appreciate what I have now until I get this home? How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one? If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness. For 2008, I suggest taking at least three of the life areas I mentioned earlier and jot down how you couldbenefit from living your highest vision in each area. Next, add action steps toward your desired achievements along with completion dates.

Four

Clear Obstacles – How will you remove obstacles in your way?

We all have dreams and visions for our life, but frankly, there are many things that can get in the way. The two most common obstacles I see with my clients are:

The inability to say NO— In order to bridge the gap from your current view to your highest vision, you have to make room for what “Could Be”. If your life is full and you want to add more of the things that are truly important in your life, you should start the change process by making room first. You must say no to some things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. You have to give up the destructive habits, behaviors and activities to make room for new ones.

A metaphor would be a water hose watering a flowering plant. The water in the hose is your life force and the flowering plant is what you are trying to grow in your life. If the water hose has leaks, it will not have enough water or life force/energy to reach its desired outcome or vision (to grow the plant into full bloom). Examples of leaks might include toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, watching too much television, eating sugar, overspending, negative relational patterns with your spouse or working on an outdated job.

Example: A client’s obstacle here was that her 8- year-old daughter needed caring for and she was afraid she wouldn’t be able to be a good mother plus jumpstart a successful, new business. We remedied this issue by getting clear on the proper definition of a good mother. Also, practically speaking, she needed help picking up her daughter from school. So she got her husband to assist her in this area so she would have time to create this new business.

Negative self-talk—Research shows we have approximately 50,000 internal messages we say to ourselves daily. We are constantly walking around having conversations with ourselves. And it is what we say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of our lives.

Example: I was once in Starbucks, and I watched this woman spill her coffee while reaching for a sugar packet and I heard her say out loud, “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

Now, I just happen to hear her, but this is an example of something you might say internally as well. You might think, “No big deal. I say things like this to myself all the time.” Well, IT IS A BIG DEAL as our subconscious hears these messages and acts on them as if they were real. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t want someone else saying to you.

Think of self-talk like mental fuel. Now, imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know you wouldn’t get very far. Now, take that same car and fill it with high quality gasoline. You’ll most likely reach your destination. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the words are negative and toxic, we will sputter along with low energy and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we will feel confident, energized, encouraged and will most likely meet our goals faster and easier. Here are some key things to remember if you ever find yourself preparing to board the train of BAD self-talk:

B– stands for belittling self-talk. Stop telling yourself, “I am not good enough.” If your dream is to have a healthy self-confidence, which of the following examples is more likely to get your there:

A. “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”

B. “Whoops, mistakes happen.”

Can you see how the Answer B is much kinder?

A – stands for awfulizing. Stop predicting a future filled with gloom and doom, and dwelling on scary thoughts. If you dream of obtaining a career you love, which of the following will move you closer to your vision:

A. “I did terribly on my interview, I’ll never find a job I like.”

B. “I will answer that question on past employment differently next time and I will ace it! I know I will one day have the job I love.”

Can you see how Answer B places you in the mindset of a successful job search?

D – stands for deceiving. This is when you deceive yourself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are to blame for your circumstances. If we want a happy relationship which will of the below responses will aid in achieving this goal:

A. “If my spouse would only do more around the house, then I would be happy.”

B. “I can and will choose happiness today, no matter what my spouse does.”

Answer B is the right choice, wouldn’t you agree?

S – stands for shoulding – This is when you give yourself a lot of shoulds, musts, and ought tos, then beat yourself up for not living up to unrealistic standards. Say your dream is to be in top physical condition, which will further that:

A. “I should have eaten a salad for lunch instead of that big ol’ hamburger. I’m such a pig!”

B. “I could have eaten a salad, but I chose not to. Tomorrow I will make healthier choices.”

The second choice is so much more inspiring, don’t you think?

Five

Commit to Action – Are you willing to do what it takes?

The final step of the 5 C Process is to commit to action. How many times have we all made plans and never carried them out, or started off excited and lost motivation? No one ever does anything great alone. We all need encouragement and support from others including an accountability partner who is willing to help hold the vision of the person you want to be. In the previous example of my client, her biggest negative self-talk was how to be a good mom and a good business woman. Her thoughts were, “If I don’t pick up my child every day from school, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we replaced it with, “Picking up my child from school daily is not what makes me a good mother. I am, indeed, a fabulous mother.”

Here are the four action steps that have been proven to help you eliminate your negative self talk:

• Become aware of your negative messages –listen to voice in head

• Stop! You have to stop immediately if you find yourself dwelling on any negative thoughts

• Replace negative thoughts with a kinder alternatives

• Practice. It takes a commitment of time in order to turn a pattern of negative thinking into a more positive train of thought.